The following meditation from my book, "A Course in Creating Confidence" will support you to clean up your side of the story in a relationship conflict.
Lesson 69: Hidden Light
"My grievances hide the light of the world in me."
The purpose of this lesson is to remove the resentments that are obscuring your spiritual light.
In this lesson, you will focus on becoming more of what you really are, which is light and love, and less of what you are not, which are your resentments.
Contemplate this idea once for 10-15 minutes, "My grievances hide the light of the world in me." Watch as your most well-practiced grievances immediately come up to argue with this statement.
In the Course, approach these lessons with the determination to bring your best energy to life. Contemplate what it would feel like to live your life without resentment.
Meditation: With eyes closed, let go of all of your thoughts. Picture your true mind as a sphere of radiant light, totally engulfed by a layer of dark clouds which are your grievances.
From your witnessing vantage point outside the sphere, all you can see are the dark clouds.
The meditative motion is one of travelling through the clouds of your resentments, and up into the light. Reach out and touch the clouds in your mind as you travel through them.
Brush them aside with your hand; feeling the dark clouds resting on your cheeks, forehead and eyelids as you go through them.
If your mind wanders, repeat the idea "My grievances hide the light of the world in me," and then continue your journey through the dark clouds.
Feel the intensity of how much you want to reach the light. If you feel resentment arising, remind yourself, "If I hold this grievance, the light of the world will be hidden from me."
You might wrestle a long time with forgiveness. Yet, there comes a time when you will be ready to let go of all the resentments you feel, even towards the people who have treated you the most unkindly. It can feel strange at first to forgive hurtful behaviours. You will likely come to realize, however, that you feel weakened when you hold onto grievances.
When resentments tenaciously occupy your mind, you can choose to see your part in your negative interactions with others. Sometimes it takes a good bit of effort to recognize the nuances of how you have participated in your negative stories. But after you clean up your own side of the story, you will be able to say "no" to others with firm neutrality and even love.